Real Friend : " Dharma is the only suhrida ( a type of friend) who remains with you even your death" In sanskrit there are several terms for English word " friend".
Atyago sahano bandhu , Sadaevanumatam suhrida .
Ekam kriyam bhaven mitram Samapranah sakha smritah
BANDHU : When the tie of love is so great that a person cannot tolerate any separation from you, he or she is called your bandhu. The tie is called bandhanam in sanskrit. It is so strong that the person cannot remain away from you, cannot tolerate separation form you.
In this world anybody and everybody can tolerate separation form you. When a person dies, what feeling will his mother and father, his brothers and sisters show ? They will cry aloud, but after two or three days , normalacy will return. They will resume their normal mundane duties. In societies where a widows marriage is accepted by people, the widow will remarry. In india , in upper-class Hindu society, a widows marriage is not accepted, but in a major portion of the world , even in india in some cases a widow's marriage is accepted by others. So you cannot say that any of your relatives is your bandhu. Nobody is your bandhu, or friend, in this respect. According to indian custom, parents having only one son may adopt another child, who is then called bandhu, But jagat Bandhu is the only real Bandhu. Parama Purusa (God) is the real bandhu. He loved you in the past ; He will love in future.
SUHRIDA : Suhrida means " those with whom there never was, and never is , any difference of opinion". In the worldly sphere there are always differences of opinion with your wife or husband, mother or father. But in the case of Parama Purusa, He nods His assent at whatever you do; and He goes on nodding. Why does He continue this nodding ? He is a true friend. In the physical sphere He does nothing, and in the psychic sphere He gives you guidelines. In the physical sphere He does nothing directly ; this is why He is suhrida for the bad person and for the good person. He is always suhrida. " Eka eva suhrida nidhane apyanuyatiyah" - He is the only suhrida that remains with you even after your death.
After your death your friends will carry to the cremation ground. After being burnt, the body is rendered into ashes. Your friends will spray some water on the ashes of the funeral pyre, and then go back home. After that they forget you. So it is the duty of intellectuals and intelligent people to strengthen the hands of dharma.
MITRAM : When the nature of duty of two persons is the same , they are mitram. Suppose there are two physicians , two pleaders, two businessmen. They are called mitram, because the nature of the duty is the same. Two thieves are also called mitram.
SAKHA : In the case of sakha , the position is that there are two physical bodies, but the mental body is the same because there is so much love. Such people are called sakha. So nobody other than Parama Purusa(God) can be sakha. Krisna was the sakha of Arjun.
Thus in this world , out of these four words for friend, only Parama Purusa can be bandhu, suhrida and sakha. In this relative world you can only find a mitram, not a bandhu, suhrida or sakha. For Him you may use the word bandhu, suhrida or sakha. He is your everything. You cannot do without Him. Your relationship with Parama Purusa is like the relationship of a fish with water. So it is futile to forget Him, try to remember Him always. This remembering Him always, in all spheres and all strata of life, is called " dhruvasmriti". Don't forget for a single moment. By dint of your sadhana, try to develop dhruvasmriti and be one with Him, and in peace for infinity.
Thursday, January 14, 2021
Your Real Friend
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